Why BBWs Are The Biggest Hypocrites

Why BBWs Are The Biggest Hypocrites

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By Guest

Published October 2015

Double standards. Society is packed to the brim with 'em. As short men, we've often been on the receiving end of these ugly social sins. Here's one we can all relate to: getting the runaround from a woman taller than us, who then goes off the deep end herself when a man much taller than her treats her the same way. What goes around comes around I guess.

 

See Also: Why Men Should Lie About Their Height On Dating Profiles
 


ENTER THE RISE OF BODY POSITIVITY

Over the past few years, a new social demographic has loomed large: the BBW, or "Big Beautiful Woman". Classically the butt of bad jokes around the office, and perpetually relegated to the distant back co er in clubbing photos with her girlfriends, the BBW is now large and in charge. The signs of this phenomenon are everywhere, but you'd be hard-pressed to pinpoint exactly when it began. One minute Kate Moss is the supermodel par excellence, the next Melissa McCarthy is Hollywood's new "It Girl". There are entire stores now devoted to BBW fashion, and it has become social suicide to engage in fat-shaming.


 

BBWs Have Tu ed Fat Shaming Upside Down
There Is No Shortage Of "Bigger Women Are Better" Memes Online | Source: Plus Sized Modeling

 

It's a truly unique phenomenon - larger men have yet to break the fat stigma. Many bigger women, on the other hand, are no longer ashamed to flaunt their curves, and they make damn sure you know it. Heck, even the term BBW is about as assertive as it gets. A ton of new dating sites cater to men (or women) who want to date BBWs, sporting names like "The Big and the Beautiful" and "Large Friends". 

 

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While we as short men should celebrate whenever a traditionally overlooked or ridiculed section of society asserts themselves and ea s a little respect, not even the BBW phenomenon is without its share of contradictions. BBWs, after all, are human, and to be human is to err. Thus we have it that this BBW, newly-infused with the pride of her tribe, can be caught discriminating against a shorter man, and then belittle the guy after he tu s the tables on her. Apparently, for her, it's ok to hate on us short guys, but God forbid we express a preference for slender women?

 

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I'm sure that this kind of behavior is an anomaly among larger women. The many BBWs I know are sweet, empathetic, and in many cases, incredibly sexy. But that one, hopefully fringe case does speak to a definite cultural lag. Short men as a whole have yet to carve out the same kind of social “cool” that BBWs have, and height shaming is a very real thing - as any short man can tell you. This leads to very demoralized confessions from men who probably have great qualities, but are short. Buzzfeed, the online magazine recently did a piece in height shaming which featured some of these "confessions".

 

Height Shaming Quote | Source: Buzzfeed

 

Some other confessions featured in that Buzzfeed piece:
 

  • "Because I'm a short guy, people think it's hilarious to call me Frodo or tell me to 'follow the yellow brick road'. F--- off."
  • "I'm a short male. I try my best to accept it and love myself but I hate it."
  • "I can't stand being a short guy. I work out. I try to be the best me, but I know most women will ignore me. The sad thing is I can't get mad at them. It is what it is."


THE DOUBLE STANDARD

Women are not the only ones society shames for their bodies. In fact, socially, people are often praised for shaming men for their lack of height. It's supposed to be a "joke".

 

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What would the response be if the genders were reversed and weight was the joke?
 

We short men, as members of society, are compelled to follow its rules. Therefore, we're made to give BBWs the new-found respect they've secured for themselves. I have no problem with this, and as an admirer of beautiful women, I genuinely enjoy being with women of all sizes who feel confident about themselves - self-perception is half the battle after all.But when will we get our day in the sun?

 

See Also: Beware Of The Reformed Heightist Woman


Unfortunately, waiting forlo ly for a dawn that may never come isn't likely to do us any favors. Trying to figure out in which direction and how fast social norms will change is about as easy as picking winning lottery numbers. There are trends, though, and they look promising. If Lenny Kravitz (5'6) and Manny Pacquiao (5'5) can both be spoken of highly without their height being mentioned disparagingly, we're on to something good. Short men can also point with pride to people like Kevin Hart (5'2) and Daniel Radcliffe (5'4), who are absolutely tearing it up in their respective fields.

 

 

 

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joshbaskins

Tuesday, July 02 05:27 PM

Nice article. I really have no problem with bigger women who prefer  tall and fit guys. What I don't like is when said bigger women have n

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TheDestroyer

Tuesday, July 02 05:32 PM

BBWs aren't my type, but I treat people with respect and dignity no matter what they look. I am not a fan of the double standa

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AlmostDefeated

Tuesday, July 02 06:07 PM

I also have no issue with BBWs. I do take issue with the concept of supposed "fatphobia" being applied to a dating preference

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MrMclean

Sunday, October 20 10:16 AM

I've seen this in real life a million times. I prefer a fit or curvy woman, but don't broadcast it all over the place.I've been in situatio

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