Miserable vs Successful short men

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I qualify to be catagorized as the "M" word; been the smallest all my life. In school, my family, I'm the oldest of two brothers, my 5 year younger bro is 6'3". When he was 4, I was 9, everyone thought we were twins. Yeah there were some some tough times. embarrassing times but no one sails through life untouched by insecurities. As i stated in earlier posts, I have a good life. My "little" bro has struggles, addiction, financial issues, he's on his 2nd marriage, my folks are raising his twin boys. He is the handsome, athletic, popular party boy. On the surface it looks like he has it all. 

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CorporateGuy -Your praise of my posts really made my day. Thanks.  Yes, I always hope that my perspective helps younger guys deal with our shared challenge in life and be successful.  I appreciate your taking the time to comment.  

Hey, younger guys-- listen to this: my wife, my kids, my friends, my coworkers and professional associates never think about my height or talk about it in normal conversation. It's not an issue; it's a fact, like hair color.  To them, I just am who I am. They think about my personality, my words and deeds, my moral fiber, my character.  Yes, I can list off every single disadvantage and pain-in-the-neck moment that i have to live through, but to my loved ones, it's not an issue.  To the general public of strangers around me, it is.  The opinions of loved ones are based on my entire being; the general public sees only a short guy.  Loved ones matter; strangers don't. 

I have a friend who is 6'7".  An acquaintance.  I see him now and then.  He is 50 something and has never married, does not own a home, has no career, and really, has never done anything with his life.  When he was 25 he was THE hot guy-- because he was TALL.  He would give anything to have my life experiences and have a loving wife and kids and grandkids and have been on TV and radio like I have.  Young guys-- please keep that in mind.  When you are born destined to be short, you have a rock to climb. Climb it.  Darn it, climb it.  What you want is respect and admiration and friendship from people who matter.  You'll get that if you climb the rock.

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I guess I am in camp B, but that does not mean I don't or haven't had many of the Camp A thoughts and feelings. 

The problem is that Camp A is self-reinforcing. You might be a spectacularly artistic, creative, kind, athletic or intelligent person - a least a partial counterweight to being short. But if you cover those fine attributes in poisonous anger at the world nobody will ever see them. 

I'm 5'4". I'm happily married for 20 years with 2 kids, at the top of my field professionally, a paid off house, money in the bank, etc. So it might just be that Camp B is self-reinforcing too. Lest you think I am some fluke, I have two college friends here in town of similar height, both similarly successful.