Re: Any of you defeat depression?
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Jacksplat-- Yes, quite depressed. No, never really, really, truly over it.
Last winter I counseled myself -- read the books and websites on the subject, and started writing. I created a long paper about ALL the aspects of being short, all the frustrations, etc. I worked it out. I resolved it myself, because I knew that no one could do it for me, and I wanted to feel free, and joyful instead of always seething inside.
I have a best friend, about 5'9"-- very average, and he's oblivious to the height issues. He HATED it when I sniped about being short, and snarled about how much I hated it, because he wanted me to just accept it and get past it. So, he was delighted when I told him he would never hear me snipe again.
Am I glad I'm not tall enough? Hardly. I have come to grips with it, that's all. Just for my own sake, so that I stop fuming over it. It's still a pain in the neck, but I am now spending my energy doing other things and not fighting it.
If I can help you at all, I'd be glad to. We have to help each other, because no tall man, and no woman can EVER know the gut-wrenching pain of knowing you will never 'measure up' your whole life.