Older men on the board. What was college dating like for you?

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Older men on the board. What was college dating like for you?
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College dating is tough. In High School, I was an extrovert. I still am, but it seems like even the shortest women want tall men. At my college, there is this one girl I was interested in. We chat each other up all of the time in class and she seemed interested. When I asked her out on a date, she told me that she had a boyfriend. Saw her with her boyfriend (first time seeing them together) a week later on campus after our Spring Break and he had to be at least 6'4. The girl? 5'1.

I went to a party two weeks ago, chatted up another girl here (we never met before), and when I asked for her number, she busted out laughing saying she could never see herself with a guy as short as me. How embarrassing it was! This woman, not to be mean wasn't even my type. All of this happened in front of a few of my buddies. They laughed also.

It wasn't like this in High School. My older brother is two inches taller than me and told me he never had problems dating in college. Some of my taller friends tell me that it's all in my head. I'm generally liked by a lot of my schoolmates, but unlike High School, it seems like every woman wants to only date taller men.

All is not bad though. I had a date this week and it went okay. She says she wanted to see me again, but her body language didn't match what she said and she was on her phone through most of the date.

For the older guys here, was it like this when you were in uni? What advice do you have?

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My success in dating came from meeting women in situations where mutual interests were involved. Yes, I met women at parties and through six degrees of separation, but clubs, music groups, athletics and volunteer groups are where I had the most success. 

Parties are going to be like clubs (i.e. a meat market) and, yes, lots of most women will be into taller guys (especially with the current state of social media). That's just the way it is. If you focus on your studies however and do the things you enjoy doing, that's where any connections will be the most valuable. 

I met my college sweetheart playing in a small jazz ensemble and rock group at my school. 

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