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Hi Al Pacino, why don't we stay in touch here so that others can chime in too with ideas? I am close to your age and already spoke with a doctor, who said I would need to come in for an exam. I am covered by my parent's health insurance and do not want to speak with family or friends about this. This, besides the large cost of surgery, is my main concern. I would not want people I know to discover I am getting this cosmetic surgery, but I am not sure what way to go about getting this done. I would be especially embarassed if I spoke with my parents about getting this done, if any of it was to be covered by health insurance, and they still were against me getting this done.
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Hi bbtopp,
I am a 20 years old guy who also thinking whether should I go for a LL surgery. I would really love to have a friend in my situation to share information and support each other. If you are interested, please send a email to XXXXXXX to contact me.
BOTD I was replying to the guy before the comment I made, I didn't say you were doubting me. As far as girlfriends and wives go, sure. I am not talking about the ability to have a relationship or even the ability to meet girls. What I am saying with the BOTD is that a girl would more likely keep giving the BOTD to a tall guy, even if he babbles like an idiot or does stupid *bleep*. A short guy more likely needs to be spot on his game, and then some.
For example, a tall guy might just stand there and not say a word, and the girl will take him through an entire conversation and cover up his *bleep* ups. If a short guy stood there and didn't talk, the girl would more likely completely ignore him. If the short guy did talk, he would need great game and good timing.
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I don't doubt what you say for one minute, but when I'm out in my town, I do see guys in the 5'3 range with girlfriends and wives. What is your nationality and what kind of women do you normally go for or find attractive?
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I hear what you're saying, but we have to stop looking at the problem side and look more at the solution side. Who cares if the "world" cares or not? It's not the whole world that you ever have to deal with, it's your own personal world. Most of my friends have always generally been on the shorter side, and we don't see being short as a problem with each other. While we fight to fix the problems of the world, let's continue to make our own worlds a little closer to the values we share. If you run into a problem, don't let your height be an issue. Lean on your short buddies when you need them, and they will lean on you if they get some trouble.
No doubt, if you have friends who happen to be tall, no problem. Just know the type when you see them...tall guys who think that height is everything because it's all they have to go on--it's their only crutch. Run away from them because they will never give you respect, since that would be an insult to their worldview. Do not get involved with this type, because they will only try to bring you down.
Upvoted your post. I don't think any of us here see short as being a problem. I can't speak for everyone here, but I think what minilinebacker is getting at is that heightism is as old as time and in the west, most people see shortness in males as a negative thing and views shorter men as being inferior. I agree we have to challenge that whenever we can, but it's tedious battle.
If you were going to combat heightism, what route would you take or what do you think society and short men should do?
Thanks for the upvote... Great question, how would we tackle this... Well first off, we are right now by talking to each other in a sort of "support group" if you will. We have some numbers behind us to support us, and when a lot of people get together to accomplish things, amazing stuff can happen. Why is there this stigma in the media that gives a touch of glamour to height? Because it hasn't failed them... they are profiting with their movies and shows, tall actors and models, and getting a lack of financial loss for short joke stuff (and btw, I do also see jokes now about tall people, also about black people, Canadian people, ugly people, etc.).
Money rules everything, bottom line. (and for good reason... though you can dispute money's role and prominence in society, by and large, money represents value created within the scheme of supply and demand--anybody can flip a burger and many people are willing to do it, but not many people know how to engineer complex machinery, or are willing to go through all the education and training to be able to do so. On the other hand, anybody can be a garbage man, but not many people are willing to do so, and therefore the salary for a garbage man is actually a bit higher than it otherwise would be based on simple skill set). Let's say all of us on this forum got together, for example, in a room, and worked together to create a movement. We get a production company to start putting short guys in movies as the de facto hero, main character, smooth and popular guy. The production company does a fabulous marketing job, and we start supporting the shows and movies made by this production company. We buy the clothes from brands that use short models instead of tall. We vote with our dollars to prefer short instead of tall. We create the demand for short, and short becomes more profitable.
There are plenty of short people in the world... once we start supporting ourselves en mass and truly preferring short over tall, things will catch on.
Also, I doubt that taller has always been seen as "superior" by everyone. I mean, if that's the case, how come there are so many short people today, if ya know what I mean...
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The problem is, I know this, you know this, but does the world care? Not necessarily.
I hear what you're saying, but we have to stop looking at the problem side and look more at the solution side. Who cares if the "world" cares or not? It's not the whole world that you ever have to deal with, it's your own personal world. Most of my friends have always generally been on the shorter side, and we don't see being short as a problem with each other. While we fight to fix the problems of the world, let's continue to make our own worlds a little closer to the values we share. If you run into a problem, don't let your height be an issue. Lean on your short buddies when you need them, and they will lean on you if they get some trouble.
No doubt, if you have friends who happen to be tall, no problem. Just know the type when you see them...tall guys who think that height is everything because it's all they have to go on--it's their only crutch. Run away from them because they will never give you respect, since that would be an insult to their worldview. Do not get involved with this type, because they will only try to bring you down.