I feel you, man.
It doesn't have to always suck, though. Hard truth: In a line-up situation like a bar or a party, we are nearly always going to be picked last or not at all, because height is so damn noticeable. The countermeasure: Avoid those situations - sure, go to parties and bars, just don't think of them as pick-up opportunities because, for us, they are not. Instead, try to find situations that require longer interactions - sports leagues or community service organizations, or even work. With a longer span of interactions height will become less of an issue - you are giving your other good qualities a chance to be seen. Of the women I have had relationships with - nearly all have come from these situations: 3 co-workers, 1 classmate, one friend-of-a-friend (was engaged to that one), and one blind date (my wife). Aside: there is no such thing as a real blind date anymore thanks to social media.
I'm 5'4" but I have a lot going for me (I'm a doctor, well off financially, and athletic) - so that helps - but it did not keep me from having years-long dry spells when I was young. Younger women are a lot pickier - they imagine Chris Hemsworth/Pratt/Pine is just out there waiting for them. Women in their 30s and 40s stop caring so much about height.
I too have felt that self-pity reflex kicking in. It's OK to sit with that for a while, but don't let it make you bitter. I am actually grateful that being an "incel" was not a thing when I was in my angry young man phase - that could have been bad.
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