How can I reassure my bf that height doesn't matter?

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How can I reassure my bf that height doesn't matter?
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I know he has trouble with it and accepting it. He gets very jealous of me when he sees me talking to taller guys, his own taller friends even! I also have a friend who is 6'1 and he is engaged with a child! There is nothing there but he hates that I talk to him. He is basically a brother to me through family friends. How can I reassure him that I am happy and content with his height!? I meen I wouldn't want to be with someone a whole foot taller than me!

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I am not the jealous type but no matter how "committed" a man is, another man is going to be jelous to some extent of a male friend. Think of it this way, if you were not happy with your weight, and felt to heavy, and he had a friend who was like a size 2 hanging around, would you feel insecure?

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Sit down and think about the roles being reversed and how you would feel. Then from there, do the things you would hope and wish he would do.

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I would honestly stop doing what you are doing to make him feel bad. If you find you aren't being an enabler of his insecurities, then have a heart to heart with him. Explain that you love him and reassure him every day with actions, not just words.

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Originally posted by Jelly Kelly

I know he has trouble with it and accepting it. He gets very jealous of me when he sees me talking to taller guys, his own taller friends even! I also have a friend who is 6'1 and he is engaged with a child! There is nothing there but he hates that I talk to him. He is basically a brother to me through family friends. How can I reassure him that I am happy and content with his height!? I meen I wouldn't want to be with someone a whole foot taller than me!

 

The fact that you had to explain about your friend tells me that you already know you should stop talking to him as much or how you are because you know it makes your boyfriend feel bad. 

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Originally posted by Catman I am not the jealous type but no matter how "committed" a man is, another man is going to be jelous to some extent of a male friend. Think of it this way, if you were not happy with your weight, and felt to heavy, and he had a friend who was like a size 2 hanging around, would you feel insecure?

 

Yeah I didn't think of it that way. I think I would feel uncomfortble. I mean he is my bf and my bestfriend so I think I know what I should do at this point. 

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I know he has trouble with it and accepting it. He gets very jealous of me when he sees me talking to taller guys, his own taller friends even! I also have a friend who is 6'1 and he is engaged with a child! There is nothing there but he hates that I talk to him. He is basically a brother to me through family friends. How can I reassure him that I am happy and content with his height!? I meen I wouldn't want to be with someone a whole foot taller than me!

 

The fact that you had to explain about your friend tells me that you already know you should stop talking to him as much or how you are because you know it makes your boyfriend feel bad. 

 

Yea I got that. I mean I need to really think outside the box because I wouldn't like it if it was the other way around. 

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I think a lot of us don't think about things being the other way around so don't beat yourself up over it.

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Originally posted by Dale I think a lot of us don't think about things being the other way around so don't beat yourself up over it.

 

I am guilty of this myself. We all have this little bubble we get sucked into where we don't consider things with other people. 

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