Re: Those times when you see younger family or friends after a few years
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mrpro1And how did you react? How did others react?
I felt like crap of course. Not because I'm upset that I'm short or anything, but because people think it's completely acceptable to mock someone for their height.
I told them that it's douche-like to make fun of me or point out something about me that I had no control over and can't change. They cringed and one apologized. Another one laughed at said it was "my problem".
What would you have done?
I dont know. Its part of our problem as short guys that when we show it bothers us it just makes it worse. Probably because the perception is that we "shouldnt think bad about our height" yet everyone ridicules us about it. Its a double edged sword. If we complain we are admitting being short is bad, thus really just knocking ourselves. Its a terrible predicament we find ourselves in.
I once had an *bleep* ask me "why are u so short?". The first time I didnt react harshly and said, I dont know. The next time I saw him, about a year later, he asked me the same question in front of a woman I was with and I said "Bob, do you have a problem with my height?" He said no what do you mean. I said "well this is the second time you asked me that question and I think you are trying to demean me about my height." And that rattled him. He knew he was but didnt expect that and he became apologetic.
A joke is a joke but when you know its meant to demean its not acceptable.
Sad to say but maybe you should have countered the little wise's remark with a retort about him. "I might be shorter than you but your nose has grown too big for your face." Or "you might be an inch taller but your also ten inches wider." They are pointing out something they preceive makes you inferior to them, which gives you the right to do the same.