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Just to add something positive into the mix:
I'm 5'4" and my wife is 5'2" We have been happily married (yes, some struggles, just like everybody on the planet) for 31 years. Our kids are happy, well-adjusted, productive, normal people-- two happily married, one engaged. We've never even thought about cheating on each other. She married me for my witty humor, integrity, ambition, and zest for life, knowing full well she was also taking on someone who had height issues. (I will admit I have never been glad about being short.) She didn't want to be intimidated by a tall guy, and she found my compact build sexy. All I'm saying here is that if you are looking for a happy marriage, base it on mutual love and respect, and honor, and personality, and similar religious/moral beliefs; then height is secondary. With the right woman, a short guy can indeed have a happy marriage. I treasure her.
The media will have everyone believe that height is the all-important determining factor for a man. You see it everywhere. Martin Luther turned the religious world of Europe upside down back in the 1520s. The effect of what he believed in and said and did is too profound to measure. But when Hollywood portrayed him in a movie a few years ago, guess what? He was 6 feet tall and slender and handsome. Hmm. Funny thing. Martin Luther was my size, a little chubby and not particularly handsome. But Hollywood figured that the American audience would never believe that a guy who was 5'4" could have done what he did. Personally, I find this appalling. Many thanks to women like you who choose to see that size does not determine value.
Nice to hear from you. Thanks for the post. My wife feels the same way. She's 5'2" and I'm 5'4". She really likes my build - short with a small waist and broad chest, that compact look you mentioned. I am always amazed and very grateful that women like you exist in a world where the media roars at us every day that only the big guys count.
The only reason is answered prayer - genetically it was highly improbable. I can still remember when I sat the older one down when he was 13 and explained that soon some insensitive relatives and friends were going to be making a big, hairy deal about the disparity in our heights. I told him that I was extremely glad and relieved he didn't have to endure life at the bottom rung as I do, but that out of respect for me as his father, he was not to point it out verbally, and join with all the lunkheads who felt compelled to point it out. He understood perfectly, and complied gladly with my wishes. Whenever we are together and I get the famous lunkhead question, "Wow. Where did he get the height from?" I resist my temptation to say "The mailman" and instead I totally change the subject and refuse to respond. Occasionally I have said, "I'll forgive you for asking that if you'll forgive me for not answering." I am very very glad both sons were spared my fate. But having to consider my issue has turned them into thoughtful young men who are sensitive to the feelings of others, and that's really a good thing.