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Hello everyone!
So, I was informed about this site and thought I'd check it out. Interesting, I must admit. I am a 5'4 female, who was previously married to a man who claimed he was 5'8, but in actuality was approximately 5'3. Never called him out on it because I loved him and didn't want to make him feel bad about his insecurities. However, based of that one traumatic experience, I highly doubt I will EVER date a short man again, hence my username NEVERAGAIN. His height issues had an effect of many aspects of his life, which is why I call it "traumatic". I've only dated taller men (5'11 and up) since and even they have had height insecurities (believe it or not).
Anyhow, one of the main reasons I could never see myself with another short man again is because of them being so insecure, which is an EXTREME turn off to me. I understand everyone has their insecurities, but I feel that height is one of those issues that you cant do much about, so get the hell over it and focus on something else.
Welcome to the site. Pretty much disregarding everything I read here because I'm pretty sure that you'd never say "I will never date a man 5'11 and up again because they are all insecure". Even if all short men "got over" their insecurities (which height might not be one of), society will continue to go on with the "short for a guy = bad" narrative and it will be something he will have to deal with. You are clearly blaming short men for their issues and not blaming the root cause of it which is external, not internal.
Go and tell black women to get over their dark skin insecurities and to "get over it" since they can't do anything about their situation either or disabled people or homosexuals for that matter.
Co-Sign. You will never hear a woman say "never again will I date a guy taller than me because he was insecure" or behaved like yadda yadda.
Well, since you both would like to go off topic. Black women have UNFORTUNATELY been bleaching their skin, so lately that has been a solution for them. Disabled people (whom I actually work with) can get various types of therapies to help along with a lot of their disabilities. As for homosexuals, some have been choosing to be "down low" which for them has been a solution.
As for ME PERSONALLY, not too long ago I stopped dating a man whom was 6'2 and insecure about everything under the sun, height just so happened to NOT be one of his insecurities. Therefore I definitely disagree with the fact that you guys are blaming external issues, instead of admitting that it is mostly internal.
People can only use someone's insecurity against them, if you allow them. When it came to my ex, because of him being insecure, he became extremely jealous of me having male friends because they just so happen to be taller, which then led to him trying to "forbid" me to have male acquaintances, which then led to him not wanting me to even have female friends because that would "influence me" and blah blah. Even after I ended things with him, when he first found out that I started dating someone else, his first question was, how tall is he? And let me mention the BIGGEST issue I have with my ex, he has become jealous of our son because he has passed us both in height.
I just don't understand why a man who may have so much more going on for him, would allow external things such as peoples criticism of them, affect them so much. I actually know a guy who is about 5'1 or 5'2 and he could care less about his height. He has accepted that most females he goes after are going to be taller than him. Instead, he focuses on other things in life that matter more.
OK. Enough of me writing novels LOL
Hello everyone!
So, I was informed about this site and thought I'd check it out. Interesting, I must admit. I am a 5'4 female, who was previously married to a man who claimed he was 5'8, but in actuality was approximately 5'3. Never called him out on it because I loved him and didn't want to make him feel bad about his insecurities. However, based of that one traumatic experience, I highly doubt I will EVER date a short man again, hence my username NEVERAGAIN. His height issues had an effect of many aspects of his life, which is why I call it "traumatic". I've only dated taller men (5'11 and up) since and even they have had height insecurities (believe it or not).
Anyhow, one of the main reasons I could never see myself with another short man again is because of them being so insecure, which is an EXTREME turn off to me. I understand everyone has their insecurities, but I feel that height is one of those issues that you cant do much about, so get the hell over it and focus on something else.