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Welcome to the site. Pretty much disregarding everything I read here because I'm pretty sure that you'd never say "I will never date a man 5'11 and up again because they are all insecure". Even if all short men "got over" their insecurities (which height might not be one of), society will continue to go on with the "short for a guy = bad" narrative and it will be something he will have to deal with. You are clearly blaming short men for their issues and not blaming the root cause of it which is external, not internal.

Go and tell black women to get over their dark skin insecurities and to "get over it" since they can't do anything about their situation either or disabled people or homosexuals for that matter. 

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Well, since you both would like to go off topic. Black women have UNFORTUNATELY been bleaching their skin, so lately that has been a solution for them. Disabled people (whom I actually work with) can get various types of therapies to help along with a lot of their disabilities. As for homosexuals, some have been choosing to be "down low" which for them has been a solution. 
As for ME PERSONALLY, not too long ago I stopped dating a man whom was 6'2 and insecure about everything under the sun, height just so happened to NOT be one of his insecurities. Therefore I definitely disagree with the fact that you guys are blaming external issues, instead of admitting that it is mostly internal.
People can only use someone's insecurity against them, if you allow them. When it came to my ex, because of him being insecure, he became extremely jealous of me having male friends because they just so happen to be taller, which then led to him trying to "forbid" me to have male acquaintances, which then led to him not wanting me to even have female friends because that would "influence me" and blah blah. Even after I ended things with him, when he first found out that I started dating someone else, his first question was, how tall is he? And let me mention the BIGGEST issue I have with my ex, he has become jealous of our son because he has passed us both in height.
I just don't understand why a man who may have so much more going on for him, would allow external things such as peoples criticism of them, affect them so much. I actually know a guy who is about 5'1 or 5'2 and he could care less about his height. He has accepted that most females he goes after are going to be taller than him. Instead, he focuses on other things in life that matter more.
OK. Enough of me writing novels LOL

COMPLETELY DISAGREE...maybe it is based off of my experience, but if time and time again I come across short men whose first approach is, "I know I may not have a chance with u because I'm short..." then I take that as a red flag of this being a long term issue. Why does that have to be the first thing coming out of a short mans mouth? I'm 5'4, so most men are usually taller than I am. I never had an issue with it, 'til they made it an annoying issue. If I were to consistently came across dudes that were over 6 feet tall and felt awkward about their height (and trust me they exist), then it would probably go the same way. I know this may sound cliché, but I truly check for a guys mental state of mind. So for me to say that I am not physically attracted to a short guy because he's short would be a lie. My last ex who was 5'11 was not great looking when it came to physical, cause had he been I would've found him attractive from the first day we met.

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If time and time again I come across dark skin women who always talk about race then I should take that as a red flag of this being a long term issue. If time and time again I come across women who have kids who have troublesome relationships with the father of their kids, then I should take that as a red flag of this being a long term issue. If time and time again I come across women who are fat and are always insecure about their weight, then I should take that as a red flag of this being a long term issue. If time and time again I come across... 

The internalization of the insecurity comes from outside influence, just like the dark skin complexes, weight complexes and everything else. The difference is you like other people always blame the short guy and not the bias that creates the problem. 

If there were no such thing as a height bias or heightism then short men wouldn't have to feel that way, and the "never again" mindset is why short men who are not "insecure" about their height will be invisible to you.