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I really wasn't sure which section to post this under but went with "Heightism" section. At this point I am feeling inadequate, strongly desire to be taller and almost giving up.

 

Up until recently I was more accepting of my height, but yesterday I was at college and this guy picked on me because I am small. Not to say I'm not the only one he picks on, he has been in trouble with teachers before because of his bad behavior. He did this thing on me called "nipple cripple" which means suddenly grabbing someone by the nipples and twisting them. He missed my nipple but left quite a big bruise and it hurt for hours. This guy must be about 5'10" or 11" (a good six inches taller than myself) and I told him if he did it again I would punch him in the face. He responded by saying if I did that he would hit me back 10 times harder. We squared up to each other but it didn't erupt into a fight and he told me to "come back when I'd grown taller". What made me even more angry was the fact that he did what he did because he thought he could get away with it, because I am the smallest kid. He also did it to another guy who is about my size but he took it as banter and was even one of the people laughing at my reaction and saying that I would have lost the fight. After this incident my pride was hurt badly and I strongly wish I was bigger and taller so I could stand up for myself. I knew deep down I would lose the fight. 

 

I just want to ask for anyone's advice, how do I deal with a situation like this??? I am kind of a "late bloomer" which might mean I will gain a bit more height before I'm 21, but clearly I'm never going to get near average height. I was extremely short at 15 because I was 4'9 and now I'm not so short but still very short at 5'4.25 at age 18. I might reach 5'6 or 7" at the very most. The fact that I look so much younger than I am also makes me a target for bullies like this.

 

I know people are going to say to walk away from a situation like this, but it's physical abuse and I don't see why I can't give it back. When in pain it triggers a 'fight or flight' response and because I am out of immediate danger chance are I will lash out next time around.

 

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I must ask, where do you go to college because that sounds so immature of him. When I was in college, anyone who did this kind of crap to people ended up paying for it by not being invited to parties and no girls talking to them. I know what it is like to be short. I was 5'4 up until I was 20 then I had my last growth of 2 inches. I am now 5'6. I was teased in middle and high school, college no one cared, and now, I own my own bar and I have to fight women off of me. Height doesn't matter the older you get. You just have to surround yourself with mature people.

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I have to agree with bonez

This is so immature for a college student. See, if I saw this happening, I would tell all the gals I knew and no one would talk to him.

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If he's acting like that at that age, he probably has problems or he's just a plain *bleep* in which case, he's going to have a bad life.

 

Just know that you don't need to be 6 ft 200lbs to be respected. Like the guy above said, surround yourself with mature people, people who are respected, you won't be an outsider and that guy will think twice before deciding to pick on you. No one wants to look like a prick in front of everyone, especially in front of girls, so if you have good friends who have influence and will stand up for you, he will back off.

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I got picked on for my height in School, not college though, and I know how much it sucks. My taller buddy, who is 5'11 and only weighs 135 pounds got picked on for being "too thin". The problem with people who pick on others is they do it because they, themselves feel inadequate. If I see a good looking dude doing this, I just imagine he was either abused at home or her has a small penis. lol

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Originally posted by Bonez I must ask, where do you go to college because that sounds so immature of him. When I was in college, anyone who did this kind of crap to people ended up paying for it by not being invited to parties and no girls talking to them. I know what it is like to be short. I was 5'4 up until I was 20 then I had my last growth of 2 inches. I am now 5'6. I was teased in middle and high school, college no one cared, and now, I own my own bar and I have to fight women off of me. Height doesn't matter the older you get. You just have to surround yourself with mature people.

Hi did you stay 5'4 for a long time before getting your last spurt to 5'6/7? I remember when I posted this topic I was 5'4.25 and now I measure 1/4 inch difference at 5'4.5 6 months later. Hopefully I will grow a bit more!

Anyway, I do a construction related course which does tend to attract thick-skinned and immature young people. Sorry for the confusion because I believe the defintion of "college" is different in America and has a different meaning. It is classed as further education but I am not sure what the US equivalent would be. Thankfully since the incident my teacher has split our group so that the more mature people are in a separate group.

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Men and women can both continue to grow in height till they are 25. It has been documented. You have to eat and use your body and it will flow. You will likely be over 5'5, thought this depends on your age now.

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Dude *bleep*ing knock him out. Get up close to him so his arms are too long to hit you and uppercut the *bleep* out of him. Make him spit his teeth out. If you don't you will regret being a *bleep* the rest of your life.

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Originally posted by ointment

Dude *bleep*ing knock him out. Get up close to him so his arms are too long to hit you and uppercut the *bleep* out of him. Make him spit his teeth out. If you don't you will regret being a *bleep* the rest of your life.

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What's up with the violence? Lol. I'd only recommend a violent response if I was approached violently, but still we're talking about school here and not the street (unless I read this incorrectly). Tell college authorities about the issue and have it resolved through the correct channels. Follow protocol. The last thing you want is a violent reputation on your campus or anything that can threaten your standing.

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Yeah getting violent in school, specially college, is grounds for getting kicked off campus. Not worth it. 

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