Height: A built in filter?

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solarfall
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Height: A built in filter?
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So obviously meeting and dating women who honestly don't mind a guy's height is rare.  But as someone pointed out to me once while I was lamenting about it, why would I want to date someone who's concerned with my height anyway?

It got me thinking, they were right. Height is an automatic filter that uses other people's discomfort at possibly liking a short guy to remove them from your dating pool. I know this sounds crazy, but think about it.... Would you really want to date someone that holds your height against you? Honestly??

So let people remove themselves from your presence, and what you are left with is gold as far as dating, friends and work.

 

 

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Amen brother.

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Originally posted by solarfall

So obviously meeting and dating women who honestly don't mind a guy's height is rare.  But as someone pointed out to me once while I was lamenting about it, why would I want to date someone who's concerned with my height anyway?

It got me thinking, they were right. Height is an automatic filter that uses other people's discomfort at possibly liking a short guy to remove them from your dating pool. I know this sounds crazy, but think about it.... Would you really want to date someone that holds your height against you? Honestly??

So let people remove themselves from your presence, and what you are left with is gold as far as dating, friends and work.

 

 

I understand what you're getting at but disagree. There are plenty of women with great personalities who just prefer men who are tall, so shorter men get the bum deal especially since some 96% of women have that preference...

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There's a difference between a preference and a requirement.  I’d prefer a woman to be shorter than me, but it isn’t a deal breaker (my wife is three inches shorter, and we’ve been married 35 years).  I understand most women would prefer a man who is taller than them.  Yet, it shouldn’t be a deal breaker if their height difference is small.  I’ve known a few marriages in which the woman was taller, and all those marriages were successful.  The average American woman is 5’4”, and yet 70 percent of young women (from what I’ve read) have a requirement that the man be at least six feet tall.  My son read one online profile in which the woman talked about her faith and how important it was to her.  Well, that’s good.  Then she wrote that the man must be 6’2” to 6’6”.  Well, if the woman is 5’11”, I can understand that as a preference.  Yet, she was exactly five feet tall.  I don’t think her faith was as important to her as her status.

And status seems to be the root of most of the problem.  Many American women value a man’s height as a status symbol.  To marry a short man would be considered settling, which seems to be the ultimate sin of so-called modern women.  Quite frankly, I wouldn’t want to be married to a woman who was that hung up on her image.  The most important quality in a spouse is the ability to go through difficult times with as much grace as possible.  At times, life is harsh, disappointing, and cruel.  Married couples go through times when they don’t like each other that much.  Successful couples ride through those times and reconnect, as my wife and I have.  Find a woman who will stand with you through difficult times.  A woman who is that hung up on her image isn’t that type of woman any more than a wife beater is that type of man.