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The heightism that short man face doesn't usually extend to short woman. I have never seen someone body shame a woman for being short. Short woman tend to be preferred socially/romantically. Lastly in most movies/tv shows/romantic books the woman is always depicted as petite never tall
While tall woman share some privileges that tall men have such as being perceived as competent/getting more respect, there tends to be body-shaming/hatred that gets targeted at tall woman (short men have it worse).
Woman that are tall are often made to believe they aren't ''real woman'' and must be transgenders/cross-dressers since womanhood is defined by being small. While woman have a stronger preference for height men aren't innocent, men tend to feel emasculated/feel like their is manhood is taken away if the woman is taller than him. That's why you have tall woman that avoid high heels and hunch to protect their boyfriends egos.
Conclusion: The hatred of short man doesn't stem from them being short but the hatred of short men stems from them being perceived as feminine similar to tall woman being perceived as masculine (sexism: tall=masculine, short=feminine), (short men have it harder since femininity is men is despised more).
Users on Lipstick Alley express their toxic disdain for short men.
The amount of toxicity of short man hate on the site is palpable. Just think about that person who is cordial with you. They're having these thoughts when they interact with you even if you're nice and respectful to them.
Vietnam says you need to be tall enough to study in school. Can you image being a genius in STEM, but not being "tall enough" to share that talent with your country?
Woman transitions to male and complains about heightism.
This person transitioned to a male from a female over a decade ago and notices who differently he is treated as a 5'9 male versus when he was a 5'9 woman, which is considered tall for a female in the U.S.
His observations almost sound like "his" mind exploded due to "his" new reality.
Anyone would rather choose Ebola/Smallpox than being short?
I am very ardent against being short and I discovered having Ebola or Smallpox is better than being short after all of my researches about short men's mental healths and my own feelings about it.
If there were 2 options for me:
1.Being around only 150cm-160 with healthy body.
In spite of everything negative people say or the various ways they choose to insult you, disrespect you, or attack your dignity. In spite of however low you may feel inside when you see your small frame in the mirror........keep your head up, put a smile on your face, breath oxygen, live and love yourself. If YOU don't; who will?
I am sure this has been said in one way or another on here but what gives? Why is racism something that has to be dealt with but heightism is a-okay!? Both can't be helped, you are born what race you are and you a born to grow into the height your DNA has mapped out for you.
You've all lived it: you're scrolling along on Facebook and one of your friends has posted a meme slamming short people. For me this morning it was a triple whammy: One post was "You've gotta hand it to short people...'cause they can't reach it." Then came a photo posted by my high school classmate who was 6'6" and a basketball "hero": a basketball friend of his who is 6'9", and the comments like "WOW. I thought you were tall." and then a photo of my son and his high school chums from nine years ago, and all the gushing comments about one of his buddies who is also 6'9": "Look at him, he's so tall...."
So, here's the deal, guys: Don't comment. Just don't. We can't say anything publicly without making it worse. On a public forum like Facebook, silence is your biggest ally. Here's why: Once you say something, everyone else feels compelled to jump in and it becomes a discussion that only make it worse. You'll get trite comments from a well-meaning old woman like "Good things come in small packages." and you'll get slammed by big guys who just add insult to injury: "Just get over it, hunh? Stop whining."
So, if you feel insulted by something, here's my advice: private message the friend who posted it and politely, firmly point out to them that you found it hurtful, not funny. You might mention that it is socially unacceptable to tease people about being fat (which they can change if they try), but that short people, especially men, are still considered open game by others. It's rude, hurtful, and totally unnecessary. I did that once, and the friend deleted it and apologized saying that she had never thought about it that way. We're still good friends. I handled it privately in a calm, mature way. That's our best choice.
Don't unfriend anyone.
Don't take the bait.
Don't return insult for insult.
Above all, don't let their boneheaded post ruin your day. Your good friends and family love you for who you are, what you do, and how you treat them. They respect you when you accomplish things in life, despite being short which puts you at a distinct disadvantage all the time.
You’ll see the same “advice” that height doesn’t matter, be more ConFIdEnT!! a comparison to A-Listers that have a LOT of things going for them that excel them beyond that of the average guy (looks, fame, interesting career, money to name a few).
I guess what I’ve learned is that life is pretty unfair and for the most part nothing you do will change that.
Hi. Welcome to the forum. I did read your entire post, but wish to respond to these key points.
The world does not owe us a thing. More importantly, as males, the world doesn't care about our problems. This forum is great for sharing our experiences however no doubt. Glad to see you here.
You are correct, the world absolutely isn't fair. You made a point about the "usual short men advice about being confident".
A lot of people dislike the C word yes, but what was interesting is the sentence where you point out that "A-List short men have things going for them that excel them beyond that of the average guy"
Bottom line, you have identified the problem and provided yourself with a (correct) solution
Life is unfair, and people "behind the curve" have to develop traits or accomplish things that put them ahead of the curve. That's the way life is and that fact will not change in our lifetime.
What this means is, you have to work on the things that you can change. You can learn a skill, you can work on your fitness, you can improve your fashion, you can work on your looks to a certain degree. Since you have control over those things, you can only gain from working on them.
Women should never be your goal, but a by-product of your success. Being short means having to develop a thick skin. It's not fair and it takes a long time to digest this. Personal happiness can only come from within.
was there any defining moment where you realized you are short?
for me it was this commercial, I remember I had the TV on but I wasn't watching it but I thought I heard the Bridesmaids mocking short guys, at the same time I could not imagine a major network would air a commercial like that, so I googled to try and find the commercial and I found it and sure enough my ears did not decieve me and a major corporation (Yoplait, General Mills) on a major network aired a commercial basically saying a short guy is not really a human, and it was acceptable for a female to mock him
So you're a Man going his own way? Are you sure about that? Are you really going your own way by your own choice? It's pretty easy to go Mgtow as a short guy. Women aren't exactly lining up at the door to date a short-stature man. So I'm curious. If you've adopted the Mgtow philosophy, and have gone your own way, was it by your own choosing? Or was it essentially imposed upon you? I'm no Incel by any means, but I am a guy who knows enough about reality. I don't bother with Tinder or dating sites because I already know the harsh reality that awaits and there's not much of a point attempting it. I have heard it before numerous times...where a girl friend will try and introduce her single women friends to "so and so" and he does "such and such" for a living, etc. But you can't help wonder why you never quite made the cut for that introduction. She knows many eligible guys to introduce to all her single friends, but you never came to mind...and as a shorter guy, you know exactly why that was the case but never can never quite call anyone out on it. Another example is I had an older woman who had 2 grown kids take an interest in me. After she already had been married twice, and had children. I never quite gave her a green light. She eventually asked if she were younger, would I have been interested. I said, yes...probably so. I asked her how tall her ex-husbands were. She said 6'3" and 5'11". I just find it quite amazing that after the youth and beauty are all gone and she secured the "tall" genes for her kids...she's now open to the concept of dating a 5'5" guy. No thank you. If I wasn't good enough to be first choice then, I'm not really interested now. I will, however, say that in not marrying, having no kids, and having a semi-decent job, I have been able to accrue a good bit of wealth and real estate that otherwise would've been difficult. So is Mgtow good? Maybe. Share your thoughts.
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