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Hello guys. I registered a long while back and have just recently found myself back here. I'll just restate my height again if I haven't mentioned it before, I'm 5ft7 or close to 5ft8 (morning height). My father was close to 6ft tall and all my uncles on my father's side were about the same or slightly taller. My mother's side of the family were short. I'm taller than all of uncles and aunts on my mothers side. So genetically I went on my mothers side mostly and due to my father being slightly tall that problem pulled my height up to just under average I guess. I remember growing up through my teens being shorter than all of my friends and holding out hope that I'll have a major growth spurt. I waited and waited and waited some more, but it never really came. I remember I had two classmates who were the same height as me at around 16 years of age that I hadn't seen in years, I saw them recently and I noticed they had major growth spurts with one reaching 6ft1 and the other touching 6ft4. I became conscious again about my height after seeing them, I just became bitter and sad for myself. I never had much luck with women who would always look past me towards my taller friends like I was invisible or not worthy of their attention, and I knew it was my height that had a part in this. I mean if you lack a bit of confidence already then being short for me anyway was the nail in the coffin. I'm much mature now and have had to force myself to come to terms with my poor genetics, but every now and again I feel sorry for myself that I am this way and have to vent. I guess it's because society has put so much emphasis that being tall means you are perfect or something and that you are the superior hunter gatherer, whatever that means. Sometimes I feel short, sometimes I don't care, but every now and then it hurts.

You've all lived it: you're scrolling along on Facebook and one of your friends has posted a meme slamming short people.  For me this morning it was a triple whammy:  One post was "You've gotta hand it to short people...'cause they can't reach it."  Then came a photo posted by my high school classmate who was 6'6" and a basketball "hero": a basketball friend of his who is 6'9", and the comments like "WOW. I thought you were tall." and then a photo of my son and his high school chums from nine years ago, and all the gushing comments about one of his buddies who is also 6'9":  "Look at him, he's so tall...."   

So, here's the deal, guys:  Don't comment.  Just don't.  We can't say anything publicly without making it worse.  On a public forum like Facebook, silence is your biggest ally.  Here's why: Once you say something, everyone else feels compelled to jump in and it becomes a discussion that only make it worse.  You'll get trite comments from a well-meaning old woman like "Good things come in small packages." and you'll get slammed by big guys who just add insult to injury: "Just get over it, hunh? Stop whining."

So, if you feel insulted by something, here's my advice:  private message the friend who posted it and politely, firmly point out to them that you found it hurtful, not funny.  You might mention that it is socially unacceptable to tease people about being fat (which they can change if they try), but that short people, especially men, are still considered open game by others.  It's rude, hurtful, and totally unnecessary.  I did that once, and the friend deleted it and apologized saying that she had never thought about it that way.  We're still good friends.  I handled it privately in a calm, mature way.  That's our best choice.

Don't unfriend anyone. 

Don't take the bait. 

Don't return insult for insult.

Above all, don't let their boneheaded post ruin your day. Your good friends and family love you for who you are, what you do, and how you treat them. They respect you when you accomplish things in life, despite being short which puts you at a distinct disadvantage all the time.

And just keep scrolling.

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Hi. Welcome to the forum. I did read your entire post, but wish to respond to these key points.

The world does not owe us a thing. More importantly, as males, the world doesn't care about our problems. This forum is great for sharing our experiences however no doubt. Glad to see you here.

You are correct, the world absolutely isn't fair. You made a point about the "usual short men advice about being confident".

A lot of people dislike the C word yes, but what was interesting is the sentence where you point out that "A-List short men have things going for them that excel them beyond that of the average guy"

Bottom line, you have identified the problem and provided yourself with a (correct) solution

Life is unfair, and people "behind the curve" have to develop traits or accomplish things that put them ahead of the curve. That's the way life is and that fact will not change in our lifetime.

What this means is, you have to work on the things that you can change. You can learn a skill, you can work on your fitness, you can improve your fashion, you can work on your looks to a certain degree. Since you have control over those things, you can only gain from working on them.

Women should never be your goal, but a by-product of your success. Being short means having to develop a thick skin. It's not fair and it takes a long time to digest this. Personal happiness can only come from within.

Again, welcome to the forum!

I've had two pairs of elevator sneakers from tallmenshoes.com.  They boost me up 2 inches. Very satisfied with them. Very good quality.  

Unfortunately my feet get tired from my heels elevated when I walk a lot. It sounds like I'm not the only one.

I only wear my elevators occasionly but I do enjoy being a bit taller!

I understand that insoles are a temporary solution, but I just wanna hear what you guys think. I don't think that it's bad since some shoes can make you appear taller anyway. I found some hidden ones like this and like this. Just wanna know ya'lls stance on insoles. Peace and love.

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