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ThatFlyShortGuy

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Height: 5'7

Location: Queens, NYC, United States

Joined: Apr 16, 2014

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Re: What's the point of our lives as short men?

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Originally posted by bigwhereitcounts

Honestly, most of us are single, childless and depressed. What's the point of our lives, is it to suffer until we die? That's a very bad life. Why not end it sooner and end the suffering and misery?

I don't agree with the idea that "most of us are single, childless and depressed".

One has to look at the entire dating market and understand that this state of affairs goes way beyond shorter men. It's a symptom of the modern dating market.

There are plenty of short men who are married, successful, have children and are overall happy. In the neighborhood where I live in New York, there are tons of shorter men, of all backgrounds who are homeowners, family members are successful in the corporate world or own blue collar businesses. Many of them are younger too.

This is not to ignore the cut-throat nature of the dating market, but there men, many of whom are taller who have children who have been dragged through the divorce courts, have their paychecks garnished for alimony payments and are suicidal.

There are taller men who get cheated on regularly, taken for their money and finessed to hell high.

As annoying as it sounds, happiness comes from within and you need to have a purpose, again, regardless of how tall you are.

It's all about perspective.

As a shorter guy, we have to develop a thicker skin and shoot our shot more, but that is no guarantee of a positive outcome. Spend time reading up on the celebrity blogs, new sites and city based forums online and you'll see men who are married or divorced who are miserable.

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Re: Is anyone here happy with their height?

I am 100% happy with my height. The only times it was a "problem" was when I was a teenager as I was expected to be much taller than I am, but it was never because I wasn't happy with who I was. When I ended up at my final height at the end of high school, I was popular, athletic, had a high school sweetheart and a big social circle.

In the adult world, there would be the occasional jerk who would make snide comments, but consistent wins in my personal life has always had my confidence high.

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Re: Girls at the bar

Hi nimrofyosi. Welcome to the forum.

Yes, this happens all over the world and it won't be just because of your height, but many times it will be because of your height.

Develop a thick skin and get used to it. It will be hard. Remember though that women can be extremely brutal in a bar setting where they are constantly being pursued (and this can be in any social setting for that matter).

Short height will be a negative to many women, but what it means for you is to be tough minded, don't take it completely to heart (it will take time to let nasty comments roll off of your back) and keep approaching. 50 approaches with one win, is better than 10 approaches with none.

Learn to pick up on signals that a woman is interested, and back off if she isn't.

Know that men average height and tall get rejected all of the time, so it won't be unique to you.

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Re: I was not meant to be short, doctors stole my height.

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Originally posted by brazilianlad I'm sorry If I came up as a tool, this is a very stressfull subject to me, I don't consider LL surgery, that's too extreme, I just wanted to feel comfortable in my own skin. It's like the women that I will meet in my life will never be looking at the real me, but at a chemical result. Do you guys think I am overreacting? How would you feel If you found out that your short stature was induced by a medication? (now that I explained that my height is, indeed, the result of a drug). Please, I need help dealing with the fact that this is not my real body, but induced by a medication, I even have all the medical tests, from when I was 13, saying "the patient has short stature, induced by the use of corticosteroids". I'm sorry If I sounded like a dick, It wasn't my intention, I don't want every woman in the world, but I want to feel comfortable in my own skin. For example, going in blind dates would be impossible, since the woman might be taller than me, I think you guys understand me now. Sorry again, and please, I truly need your help.

The important thing to remember is that the past cannot be changed. For whatever reason a person is short, the fact is just that they are short. A woman who isn't interested in a short guy is not going to change her mind because of why you're short. Think, if you aren't into dating single mothers or women who aren't attractive, do you care why they have kids or why they aren't attractive? Once you grapple with this, you will be able to move past that "feeling".