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I disagree with this. I know that a lot of men here hate being given the "confidence" talk but it is spot-on correct. Not confidence as some fake badge of honor, but in "not giving a flying crap about what anyone thinks".

There is a man on YouTube who addresses short guy's issues attracting a partner. I will reiterate some of the talking points from that video.

   
• Not every woman will be into you - For us short guys, it's tougher as we're not a lot of women's type. It just means we have to find the ones who are into us and go for them. 
   
• Don't look for a relationship - Stay on your purpose (hobbies, job, career). Women are the icing on the cake, not essential
   
• Younger women are an option - Don't make her feel like you're her father. Be fly, be into current trends, let her live in her current stage. Don't "discuss the future". Younger women want to live in the moment (dancing at the club, having fun)
   
• Avoid older women looking for a clean up man - Shorter guys are a big target for this one because we're clearance rack items to a lot of women who are tired from the mental gymnastics that guys they found attractive put them through
   
• Nerdiness = Lack of social skills. You can unlearn those. 
   
• Make them feel feminine - Either putting on muscle, being a man of your word or having command of a skill or field

The first point is the most important. You can attract women. You just have to play the game accordingly and treat women not as the panacea to all of your life issues. You have to be comfortable being alone and not require a woman's attention. That's a female trait (being needy).

I am not ignoring heightism and how much more difficult it is for us compared to other men, but we do have a certain level of control. For the women who aren't into us, it is what it is. There are women who not date men with penises less than 8 inches, or men with a certain job, or men of a certain complexion and we can't change their minds. Ignore those and let them be. 

Damn, she couldn't even bring herself to sing the original lyrics. Wow!

So as you know, I own two successful businesses and work a full time job. I am not married nor do I have kids. I currently have a really fly girlfriend and most of the women I've dated are considered by most to be well above average in attractiveness. I am not writing this post to brag, I'm doing this to discuss a phenomenon.

See, us short guys are "supposed" to be at the bottom of the barrel. I've noticed that women who aren't considered very attractive, play up their standards to only include very attractive men, above average in all areas. I am okay with this, but not so much with these women's incessant needs to put down men who don't "meet" their standards. I don't get mad, I just shrug it off and laugh. I'll tell you why

I work with a woman who is overweight, wears hair extensions and a lot of makeup. She is not particularly attractive and has a very nasty and sometime-ish attitude. We got along okay, until she saw me with my girlfriend. After that, it was nothing but non stop back-handed comments and remarks about my height. I would respond "but I am successful, my girlfriend is fly and I make great money, so who cares?". 

Her remarks eventually turned into frustrating grunts and dirty looks. This was over a period over a few weeks. I'll tell you why...

It frustrates some people to no end to see a short successful confident man. It is like body armor. It will piss off your "haters". I know the word "hater" is overdone, but it will frustrate others who perceive you to be of lower status actually be higher on the totem pole than them of higher than they wish for you to be.

Keep on grinding fellow short guys! We're going to make it!