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I moved to SC from IL and I have noticed that height is much more important here. In IL I could get a few dates a year and I never had any women just outright insult me over my height nor did I ever find myself the victim of a terrible prank. Here in SC I have witnessed both and I have two words to describe most of the women here, fat and very vicious. Has anyone else noticed this or is it just me? Or maybe heightism has become much more prominent in the last couple years.

From Quora Thread entitled "What is tall for you?"

Hi there, you are plenty tall enough to find a great girl assuming you behave well and have a good personality, reasonable looks, decent intelligence and grades, are mature for your age, emotionally stable, and don't have bad breath or something equally smelly. 

Whether a given girl will like you at a height of 6 feet depends on where you live, and it also depends on the personality and attitudes of the tall girl who is slightly taller than you.  I wouldn't count on her dating a guy who is shorter than her, because human mating research shows that it's human nature and instinctive for a female to get the tallest man she can enjoy company with, as her mate. The reason for this female preference for the tallest man she can enjoy company with, is that taller men on average get more promotions and better wages than equally qualified men of shorter height.  But don't rule it out. I know of several situations where a tall girl dated a slightly less tall guy, and it worked out well and became a marriage.

Most girls like a guy to be at least 6 feet tall, here in Texas where I live.  Usually the taller the girl is, the taller she wants her boyfriend to be.  Among women and girls, it's considered socially funny to have a boyfriend who is shorter than you are.  Texan guys and gals on average are slightly taller than the national average.   In a place like Mexico, Hawaii, China or Japan where men are shorter on average, you would be very impressive and girls who didn't mind the cultural and language barrier would be flirting with you like crazy. 

My brother in law is approx. 6 feet tall and he lives in LA, where there are a lot of tall young men and tall young ladies looking for acting work or modeling work. My brother in law was having a hard time finding a girlfriend in LA who found him impressive, because in LA the ladies and the men are both are overall taller, and he seems average. Well eventually he met an ethnically Japanese lady, about 5'10" who is also a ping pong expert, at a ping pong club he plays at.  Since Japanese guys tend to be short, even Japanese-American guys in LA, this Japanese lady was impressed with his 6 feet height and also impressed that he can beat her at ping pong.  They are now a happy couple.

My husband is 6 feet tall, I could have gotten a taller man if I wanted to, but I am only 5'2" so I am a bit uncomfortable with a man who is over 6 feet tall. 

An ex roommate of mine from college who is male and only 5'9" married a lady who is 5'11" - So again, don't give up just yet.  If you like her a lot, I say give it a try. Can't hurt to see if it works out or not.

Oh, and there are also special shoes a guy can buy that will artificially make him 1-2 inches taller without it being obvious.  Short stars like Tom Cruise, Dustin Hoffman, Ben Stiller, and Humphrey Bogart have worn them.  Maybe those would be worth a try?  I mean, it's no different from girls wearing a padded bra, and most females do that, from time to time, especially for a formal occasion. Like I did at prom, and at my wedding.

Or, saying no to the special shoes is totally fine too, because you are plenty tall already. Up to you.  :)

As much as we'd rather not play the victim because most of us probably have no issue with our height, other than the consequences of the fact that everyone else seems to care about it. In the hiring process and workplace, dating life, etc. we are not receiving the respect and rewards that someone else would who is an exact replica of us in every way, except a taller version.

Today, I was walking through the department store quickly after I picked up what I needed, since I needed to get somewhere as shortly as possible. Just as I passed by a lady pushing her young son in the shopping cart, sitting in the cart seat, she raised her voice and said to him "When you grow up, remember you want to be TALL!" I kept walking even though I felt like turning around, punching her in the face, and telling the kid, "When you grow up, remember, all that matters are the actions you take, because YOU HAVE NO CONTROL over your height". A frustrating thing I don't understand and seems to be a running thought in the mind of women as if it is a possible thing. Women think men whose heads don't measure up to a certain level turn out that way because they lack the ABILITY or WILL... like wtf is this? Other than environmental factors/diet/exercise contributing possibly an inch or so height difference, your ultimate height is determined by your genes. Why would you ever focus on HEIGHT as a QUALITY TO STRIVE FOR?

Anyone?

We really deserve all the extra help we can get, because although we are more than capable of doing everything ourselves and know that height doesn't matter, the world has socially, and therefore politically, stigmatized the plight of short men. This hurts our chances of equality without an added legal basis as a protection class so that we can better defend ourselves SOCIALLY from being, excuse me, "looked over".

Why is that whenever I read articles in print and online or hear people talk about shorter people in person, they always undercut a man's accomplishments by pointing out his lack of stature?

It's literally everywhere, from everyday conversation to the workplace to dating and in social settings. Why do so many people deny it exists? Even when you press people, they'll cave in and be like "okay", but then go on some rant about how it's not that bad or serious. 

I've read posts on other forums where women claim to be offended when they are picked up, pat on the head and aren't taken seriously professionally, but in all my years on this earth, I have NEVER seen a woman picked up without being asked to (at work? from a stranger?) or pat on the head. If anything, men go crazy over short women and I see far more short women in positions of a authority (store manager for example) than I do men who are of a similar stature.

So tell me, where do women have it as bad as short men when it comes to heightism?

Heightism

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