Hi guys,

So i'm new, think its cool there is a forum for this - seems there is one for everything else. Im only 5ft4 (sigh).

Basically in school when everyone shot up past me circa the age of 15, it became a nightmare. My height was always brought up and the butt of a few jokes.

However, I went to university and suddenly it wasn't that big a deal. Guys never brought it up or laughed, there were loads of other short guys. Woman didn't care. Infact I've had a tonne of success dating/hook up wise here.

I feel like the girls at uni are so much more cultured and intellectual, they aren't as superficial as the hometown girls. I dunno.

Anyway, im leaving this year and it is worrying me. I won't be on the student social scene and I feel i'l flounder in the 'real world'.

How do i carve out an identity? It just feels like short guys can't really be anything. You can't be the strapping athletic guy, or the cool alternative dude. Your just.....short.

Dating seems like it will be hard. There isn't the social scene of student life. You're in the working world full time. In nightclubs i notice that it is very hard for short guys to get attention. The girls flock round taller guys - even if they are really ugly.

I've been successful on Tinder (in terms of matches). Woman do find me attractive but they obviously don't know my height. In decent shoes I'l reach 5ft6 but that's nothing. I worry about going on dates and feel im not good enough for them. Even though im funny, athletic, ok looking and intelligent. It just feels like height is the top trump.

How do you guys cope?

My brother is about 5'10. I don't know how I ended up so short lol anyways, his friend set him up with his girlfriend's cousin. I guess they had a great time but she said something that I had to share. 

"I have to be honest. Because I am so short, your height is a bit too tall for me."

She is my height. Says she prefers 5'5 to 5'9. 

So as a not so tall guy and hearing not so great things about how short guys are seen by women on Tinder I decided to get my feet wet and give it the old college try anyway. In less than a week I had 24 matches. 6 of them stopped talking to me when I told them my height (they asked). 10 of them didn't ask and wanted to go on a date. Out of curiosity (and not to waste my time), I bought my height up several times and none of them cared (with the exception of two who sucked their teeth and made comments about not being able to wear heels). 

The other 8 did not bother to respond to any messages (probably validation "I feel so good about guys trying to hit me up on Tinder, let me get their hopes up by swiping right!). 

I have 2 dates this week, so not too shabby! I'd imagine though that if I were 6'+ I'd have way more dates. I'd say even if you are short, give it a shot and don't let the non-repliers get to you. 

My friend asked me this question and I said yeah why not if I find her attractive and she is a sweet person. Then he goes, you know 4'9 and under is a midget right? I never heard this. I figured I would ask you fells on here. I see a lot of little women who are beauitful in their own way.

I read that men should lie about their height on dating sites to increase odds because 75% of women are 5'6 or shorter on these sites. They will likely cancel out a lot of possible meeting or matching because most dating sites do 2inches + taller men than the woman. I am not sure about this and I would like to know if anyone else heard this?

I was buying some today, got the magnums, the ones I always get. I take them up to the woman at the register and she gives me this look, like scans my body then fluffs out this chuckle. I asked if something was wrong and she said "nope" with an attitude. She musta have been around 25. I know it is because I am shorter and thinner. She is assuming because of this, I have a small size downstairs. Anyone ever get this? What BS!

I was talking about this with a friend and he believes women who are bigger or curvier want taller men. He said this was because they wanted to feel smaller and more lady like. If they are with short guys, it makes them look bigger. What do you think?

I heard someone say this while I was shopping the other day and I had to post it here.

The woman saying this was maybe 5'8ish maybe taller, she goes "I am so sick of all these little girls taking all the tall men. Like come on! There are plenty of short guys us tall and stunning model types don't want!" 

Her friend was about her height as well and just agreed and said it is "pathetic"

So my question is, does it bother you that tall men take all the short women?