Hi,

I had the perception that women in Europe were less heightist than in North America. Lately I have been reading that women in the Scandinavian countries hate short men and won't date them. By short I mean 5'5 -5'7 range. I know average height for men there is like six feet. I thought I would ask if any short men in the range I mentioned do well with the ladies there are or are we like pariahs?

http://jezebel.com/why-are-you-still-rejecting-short-guys-1729897406

this one is also older so hopfully not a repeat:

http://thoughtcatalog.com/jim-goad/2014/07/is-it-a-hate-crime-to-make-fun-of-short-people/

I just had an argument with someone because I was enthusiastically agreeing with an article on here. I spoke on how being called cute, as a short guy, is NOT a complement. It's the type of thing that they say to guys that they probably would NEVER have sex with. This is what they say when they see a baby, a puppy, or an outfit they like...should we just be happy that they are calling us cute at all? Even if it essentially means nothing? The person that I had the argument with says, "That's not true, girls call all different kinds of guys cute!" ....but when I think about the people I've met, they have tall mates. (...or at least taller than me) On top of that, my own life experiences have shown me (through female family members, friends, and former potential love interests) that even when there are positive comments made about short guys, there is usually a joke about how it WOULD be to be with them (or me, in cases of love interests)...so things of this sort don't make me feel like we get a fair shot at things of love, and probably other things too without us knowing it. What do you think? Am I just bitching about it, or do I have merit to feel this way?

I've seen plenty of celebrity couples where the woman is taller, but rarely do I see it in real life on a regular basis. I once dated a woman who was 5'10 for four months. We didn't break up because of height, but because I had to relocate for a higher position at my company and she wasn't willing to move. 

I can't say I've dated mostly taller women, but I have dated a few who were my height.

So how often do you see tall women with short men and how tall was the tallest woman you've dated?

"Burt, 20, who currently lives in Bushwick, Brooklyn, refuses to date anyone shorter than 6-foot-3, but says she has a lot of options.

“Fortunately, New York is full of tall, hot men,” she said. “Guys will come up to me a lot and say things like, ‘Your legs are gorgeous’ or ‘You should be a model.’ ”"

I was going to get mad going into this article, but to be fair, Holly Burt is 6'3 which is VERY tall for a woman and being this tall, I can't blame her for not wanting to date men under 5'9 though she did say that she wants to be with someone her height or taller. To her, most men are short I guess since the male average height in American is 5'9/5'10.

Would you date her if she dated any height?

"I was out shopping today, and I saw one of the saddest things ever. There was a short guy with his girlfriend, they were both approximately 5"6" inches tall. The guy was perfectly good looking, he was 'handsome' in every way, he looked like a young Pierce Brosnan, but he was just quite short. He was the kind of guy you would expect to see with a goodlooking girlfriend, but this was not the case. His girlfriend was butt ugly. I don't even mean just bad looking, she was repulsive to look at. She was at least 300lbs of pure lard. I felt sick just looking at her.
I felt really sorry for the guy because he has been screwed over by genetics, and because of this he has to settle for someone far less attractive than him. He got everything else right in terms of looks, but it seemed like his height had pushed him way down into the bottom league."

What are your thoughts on this?

Morning!

Looking for a bit of (silly) advice. I just started dating a guy 4 inches shorter than me and I haven't quite mastered the hugging part. I just don't want to make him feel awkward. Should my arms go over the shoulders or try to get under his arms? Usually guys I've dated are my height or taller and my arms end up around my partner's waist...

I feel silly asking - but too awkward at this early stage to ask him directly.

So.... what's the general preference?